Nine out of every ten of my clients express that they ‘just want to be better’. Better in life. Better in time management. Better in finances. Better in stuff. Just better.
So I took some time to take that word apart. Better. Some of the definitions that popped up were; superior, finer, of higher quality, greater, a cut above the rest, healthier, improving, and looking up.
What does ‘better’ get us? On the surface, it takes us from where we currently are, to where we want to be. It’s forward moving. Better goes much deeper, though. It transforms us.
Action is essential for ‘better’. Having a plan. Working that plan. Fleshing that plan out. It is truly a living entity. An ever-changing process.
Important Side Note: Along the way, I also discovered that action doesn’t always mean movement. There are some times in our discovery, that ‘being still, to be better’ is a needed action. Being is an action word. Sometimes we move too fast. We make decisions out of anxiety, fear, indecision, and impatience. Recognize when being better may mean just dwelling for a while.
Being better is a life-long goal. It’s a healthy goal, as long as it does’t consume you.
Here are some tips to attach to your plan for ‘being better’.
TIP # 1 - LET IT GO
Let go of the things that are holding you back. You know what things I’m talking about. The inability to forgive, regret, lack of hope, self-limiting thoughts, and more than anything, not believing in yourself. Recognize these, then do some ‘replacement therapy’. Replace the things that are holding you back with the opposite. Begin to express thoughts that start with ‘I can’, instead of living in the ‘I cant’s’. Once you let go, ‘better’ starts to rise to the top.
TIP # 2 - KNOWLEDGE FOR THE WIN
Sign up for a new course. Knowledge is power. And having that power in our pocket can help us to be better at the things we struggle with. It can also be fun. (says the Enneagram 7:) If there is something you don’t know how to do, learn how to do it. I’ve gotten better at so many things due to obtaining the knowledge on how to do them. There are many resources out there to choose from. I’ve personally loved working with Alison.com - Alison is one of the world’s largest free learning platforms for education and skills training. There are many free courses for you to dip your toes. Click here to view the wide variety of courses you can choose.
TIP # 3 - RELEASE THE STRESS
Stress kills. Truly. It works on the mind, body, and soul. Destroying, letter by letter, from the word better. One of the things that I’ve learned from being an avid Walking Dead fan (sorry to those that are shocked by this revelation, lol:) is that instead of waiting for something to eat you alive, attack it first. There are so many ways to decrease stress. Meditation is one of my favorites. I use an app called ABIDE. It speaks to my soul and quiets the savage beast that tries to take over my thoughts. Find a meditation app that speaks to you, and relax. This may sound like an oxymoron, but focusing on the present is one of the biggest ways to ‘be better’ and move forward.
TIP # 4 - BE KIND, LATHER, RINSE, REPEAT
In the words of one of my favorite humans, Mr. Rogers, “There are three ways to ultimate success: The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind.” It’s not rocket science—just two words. Be Kind. It’s a give-to-give offering, but what happens every single time, is that it makes us better. A boomerang effect occurs. When you throw kindness out to others, better is what comes right back to you.
TIP # 5 - CH-CH-CH-CHANGES
Changes are inevitable, as the world spins on its axis, our feet can’t help but move with it. Learning how to adapt to changes, not repeating the same actions over and over, and responding instead of reacting, allows us to be better in the midst of the chaos and disorder all around us. As an Enneagram coach, I’ve watched people learn how to first discover and recognize both their fears and their desires. Enabling them to understand themselves with astonishing clarity. It’s an amazing tool to work into the plan of ‘being better', providing a way for us to embrace change and shift our way of thinking, acting, and responding. Let me know if you want to learn more.
Setting goals, surrounding yourself with people who want to see you succeed, eliminating habits that are holding you back, adding both physical and internal health changes to your life, and most of all, having compassion not just for others, but for yourself, will provide you with the building blocks for a great plan to ‘being better.'