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Is it too Peopley out there?

Have you ever had one of those days that you just didn't want to see people?

Even with my outgoing personality, I have those days too!!! That's ok!

When it's not ok is when it becomes an isolation problem. One day turns into the next and turns into the next and before you know it, you are the only 'people' that you've seen or associated with for weeks!

We all need some time to ourselves. Sometimes, we just don't feel like being around other people. But if you find yourself isolating more and more, it can start to have a negative impact on your mental health. Social isolation can lead to feelings of loneliness, depression, and anxiety. It can also make it harder to cope with stress and challenges.

So, what do we do about it!?

Here are some tips to break the cycle and help you out of your 'un-peopley' mode:

  • Start small. If the thought of going out and socializing seems overwhelming, start by making small changes. Make plans to see one friend for coffee or lunch. Go for a walk in your neighborhood. Attend a small gathering or event. The trick is 'action'. No matter how small.

  • Be honest with your friends and family. Let them know that you're struggling with social isolation and that you need their support. They may be able to offer you encouragement and help you make plans to get together. Take a look at that word 'encouragement'. Right smak dab in the middle is the word 'courage'. Sometimes, courage can be really hard to come by. But here's the good news: you don't have to find it all on your own. Other people can be your cheerleaders, your sounding boards, and your shoulder to cry on. They can remind you of your strengths, help you overcome your fears, and give you the push you need to take that first step.

  • Find activities that you enjoy. When you're feeling up to it, find activities that you enjoy doing and that involve other people. Taking our eyes off of us and putting them on other people (yes, people are involved:) helps us to not isolate. By you taking this step, you may even help someone else who is following this tip and struggling with isolation. Volunteer somewhere! We were not created to be alone all the time. Volunteering, even if it is for a short period of time, can take your eyes off of you and before you know it, people may not be so bad after all.

  • Set realistic goals. Don't expect to go from being a social recluse to the life of the party overnight. Set small, achievable goals for yourself and gradually work your way up. I like to call these 'micro-goal's. Set a goal and then break it up into bite-size pieces. They are so much easier to swallow!

  • Don't be afraid to ask for help. If you're struggling to break the cycle of social isolation, don't be afraid to ask for help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with support and guidance as you work to overcome your challenges.

Remember, you're not alone. Social isolation is a common problem, but it's one that can be overcome. By following these tips, you can start to break the cycle and build stronger social connections.

By the way, if you really like that coffee cup and need to use it on those days that people are just not your thing -- you can click here! Then have a cup of java, sit back, and enjoy you for today...tomorrow is another day! People will always be there!:)

With Vizion,


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